If you’re planning to have an abortion, you may feel it would be easiest to just keep it to yourself.
While you have the legal right to choose how to proceed with your pregnancy without telling anyone, sharing these desires with your partner and hearing his insight can be helpful.
If you’re avoiding the conversation and don’t know where to begin, continue reading for tips on discussing your pregnancy options with your partner.
Sharing About Your Pregnancy
1. Prioritizing Your Safety
If your partner is abusive or you feel discussing your pregnancy with them will lead to an outburst, it is vital for your safety to develop a plan before talking with your partner. Call the National Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE for support.
2. Preparing for the Conversation
Before speaking with your partner, it can be helpful to consider your thoughts and feelings about the pregnancy through journaling and reflection. Talking with a friend, family member, counselor, or faith leader can also be a great way to sort through your emotions and prepare for the conversation.
3. Choosing the Best Environment
When choosing a place to discuss your pregnancy with your partner, consider where you would both feel most comfortable. You likely want a private and calm environment as you discuss your thoughts and feelings about the pregnancy.
4. Getting the Facts
As you are considering your options, you might find it beneficial to gather additional information. One way to do this is by having an ultrasound.
At your ultrasound appointment, the sonographer or nurse will share with you three very important things regarding your pregnancy.
- They will determine the gestational age of your pregnancy, which is sometimes referred to as “how far along you are.” It is measured in weeks, starting from the first day of your last menstrual period.
- During the ultrasound examination, the sonographer will also assess the location of your pregnancy to determine if it is properly implanted in your uterus.
- The sonographer will also check the viability of the pregnancy. About 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in a miscarriage. If a pregnancy is not viable, it means that the fetus is not developing normally and is not expected to survive.
5. Taking Time to Listen
You may feel you’ve already decided how to proceed with your pregnancy, and while the decision is ultimately yours, listening to your partner’s insights can be helpful. Try to remain calm as your partner shares his thoughts with you, as he might share something you had not considered.
Get Help Today
Before choosing to have an abortion, it is essential to have a medically accurate pregnancy test and follow-up ultrasound scan. The ultrasound will help you learn more about your pregnancy’s age, location, and viability.
Contact us today for your confidential appointment. You can receive free pregnancy testing. If your test is positive, we’ll schedule you for a free ultrasound. Our trusted patient advocates can also discuss your options and help you navigate sharing the news with your partner.
We want to help you make an informed decision that is best for your health and future.
Pregnancy Testing
To confirm your pregnancy, start with a no-cost pregnancy test from Choices. We will confidentially provide conclusive results at no cost to you.
STD/STI Services
During your pregnancy test, we also offer limited STD/STI screening. You and your partner receive no-cost treatment if you test positive for gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, or syphilis.
Ultrasounds
If your pregnancy test is positive, complete the confirmation process with a no-cost limited ultrasound. An ultrasound confirms viability, the gestational age, and the location of your pregnancy.
Abortion Pill Reversal
If you’ve taken the first dose of the abortion pill method and regret your decision, it may not be too late to save your pregnancy. There’s a process called Abortion Pill Reversal, but you must act quickly.
Pregnancy Testing
To confirm your pregnancy, start with a no-cost pregnancy test from Choices. We will confidentially provide conclusive results at no cost to you.
STD/STI Services
During your pregnancy test, we also offer limited STD/STI screening. You and your partner receive no-cost treatment if you test positive for gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, or syphilis.
Ultrasounds
If your pregnancy test is positive, complete the confirmation process with a no-cost limited ultrasound. An ultrasound confirms viability, the gestational age, and the location of your pregnancy.
Abortion Pill Reversal
If you’ve taken the first dose of the abortion pill method and regret your decision, it may not be too late to save your pregnancy. There’s a process called Abortion Pill Reversal, but you must act quickly.
